Category Archives: Depression

The problem with text therapy

You’ve probably seen the ads for Talkspace, Betterhelp, and other digital therapy services meant to “disrupt” the therapy world. Maybe they even sound good to you — a bargain price, and access to your therapist whenever you want instead of at a set appointment time each week. But with anything, there’s a shadow side, a […]

Feeling more stressed than usual? You’re not imagining it.

If you’ve been feeling stressed, tense, overwhelmed these past months, you are not alone. A recent survey by American Psychological Association found that Americans are more stressed than we’ve been — or at least since this survey started in 2007. The current political situation, the near-constant news updates, conflicts on social media, and the fear […]

What’s the Point of Feeling Emotions?

What’s the point of feeling emotions? Especially ones you might find difficult, distasteful, even scary. You might be thinking, “I don’t want to wallow in sadness,” or “I don’t want to get stuck in anger and not get out of it.” We have a lot of fears about emotions, and spend a lot of time […]

Getting to Know Your Inner Perfectionist

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, will be available in just a couple weeks! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, […]

Negativity Bias: Why We Notice What’s Wrong More Than What’s Right

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, is available now! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, a lot of the tools work […]

FAQ: Myths and Truths about Perfectionism

Myth: If I stop being a perfectionist, I won’t be successful, ambitious, or hardworking anymore. Truth: Your perfectionism is not actually helping you achieve; in fact it’s probably holding you back! Perfectionism often causes anxiety, stress, depression, and other feelings that get in the way of your thinking clearly or creatively. Perfectionist behaviors like procrastination […]

Three Ways to Combat Beginning-of-the-School-Year Perfectionism

Want a free copy of my new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens? Enter the Goodreads Giveaway! Starting a new school semester? Perfectionism loves to show up at this time of year to create impossibly high expectations, unrelenting anxiety, and debilitating self-criticism. Here are three ways perfectionism gets in the way — and what you […]

Fear of Feeling

“So much of [what] leads individuals to seek therapy can be traced to the terror of affect. People disconnect from their emotional experience, afraid of being overwhelmed, humiliated, or revealed as inadequate by the force of feelings, only to pay the price later in depression, isolation, and anxiety.” –Diana Fosha, founder of AEDP Fear of […]

Happiness vs Perfectionism

Perhaps you read that article about how having a first child brings about as much unhappiness as getting fired or divorced. It’s not that surprising when you think of it — for all the joys of having a baby, there is also sleep deprivation, stress, and the feeling that you don’t know what the hell […]