Category Archives: Happiness

Negativity Bias: Why We Notice What’s Wrong More Than What’s Right

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, is available now! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, a lot of the tools work […]

FAQ: Myths and Truths about Perfectionism

Myth: If I stop being a perfectionist, I won’t be successful, ambitious, or hardworking anymore. Truth: Your perfectionism is not actually helping you achieve; in fact it’s probably holding you back! Perfectionism often causes anxiety, stress, depression, and other feelings that get in the way of your thinking clearly or creatively. Perfectionist behaviors like procrastination […]

Perfectionism and the Price of Admission

Most of the time when we think of perfectionists, we think of people having impossibly high standards for themselves. But perfectionism can also show up in relationships, if the form of impossibly high standards for friends, family, or romantic partners. Do any of these sound familiar? You expect your partner to never forget a date […]

Not Broken

It’s January 22. By now, 30 percent of New Year’s resolutions have been “broken.” I put broken in quotes because slip-ups, mistakes, moments of overindulgence or forgetfulness do not mean your goal is now broken and you have to give up or start over. Setbacks or bumps do not mark the end of the road, […]

The Broken Promises of Perfectionism

When I ask people how they push themselves to achieve great things, I often get a response that sounds like someone trying to get the “correct” answer on a test; “I try to reward myself along the way” or “I visualize myself succeeding” or another piece of wisdom out of a motivational book. (I’m usually […]