Category Archives: Inner critic

Getting to Know Your Inner Perfectionist

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, will be available in just a couple weeks! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, […]

Negativity Bias: Why We Notice What’s Wrong More Than What’s Right

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, is available now! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, a lot of the tools work […]

The Problem with Shoulding All Over Yourself

Perfectionists often believe that the only way they are going to motivate themselves to keep succeeding at a high rate is to be hard on themselves. I can’t tell you how many perfectionists tell me that they secretly believe — they know — that if they stopped being cruel slave-drivers towards themselves they would instantly […]

Confessions of a Perfectionist

As I make my final preparations for my perfectionism workshop this Saturday I have been noticing my inner perfectionist voice getting louder and louder, growing from a whisper to a shout…the workshop isn’t good enough…you don’t know what you’re talking about…everyone’s going to laugh at you…you should probably cancel and make this better before putting […]

Not Broken

It’s January 22. By now, 30 percent of New Year’s resolutions have been “broken.” I put broken in quotes because slip-ups, mistakes, moments of overindulgence or forgetfulness do not mean your goal is now broken and you have to give up or start over. Setbacks or bumps do not mark the end of the road, […]