Category Archives: Mindfulness

The problem with text therapy

You’ve probably seen the ads for Talkspace, Betterhelp, and other digital therapy services meant to “disrupt” the therapy world. Maybe they even sound good to you — a bargain price, and access to your therapist whenever you want instead of at a set appointment time each week. But with anything, there’s a shadow side, a […]

It’s OK to Be Angry and Sad Right Now

Emotions are running high post-election. You may be feeling disappointed, shocked, scared, angry, or saddened by the results on November 8. If you’re like me, you’ve heard a lot of well-meaning people trying to talk you out of your emotions. I’ve been told I need to stop feeling sad, or that being angry won’t help. […]

Getting to Know Your Inner Perfectionist

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, will be available in just a couple weeks! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, […]

Negativity Bias: Why We Notice What’s Wrong More Than What’s Right

My new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens, is available now! To celebrate, I am running a five-part series highlighting some concepts from the book. I’ll talk about some different ways perfectionists struggle, and offer some tools for change. (By the way, although my book is technically aimed at teens, a lot of the tools work […]

Three Ways to Combat Beginning-of-the-School-Year Perfectionism

Want a free copy of my new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens? Enter the Goodreads Giveaway! Starting a new school semester? Perfectionism loves to show up at this time of year to create impossibly high expectations, unrelenting anxiety, and debilitating self-criticism. Here are three ways perfectionism gets in the way — and what you […]

“Good” Vs “Bad” Anger

Anger has a bad reputation in our culture. It’s considered toxic by some, for others it brings up bad memories of family shit, for others it is entangled with violence. But anger has a purpose, and — when expressed appropriately — has an important place in relationships. First, let’s differentiate between anger that is a […]

Treating Depression with Therapy Instead of Medication

Medication is helpful for some people some of the time, but often people come to me after trying anti-depressants and seeing very little difference. What can therapy provide that pills can’t? Check out this great piece in the New York Times to learn more about how therapy — and specifically accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP) […]