Category Archives: Self-compassion

Three Ways to Combat Beginning-of-the-School-Year Perfectionism

Want a free copy of my new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens? Enter the Goodreads Giveaway! Starting a new school semester? Perfectionism loves to show up at this time of year to create impossibly high expectations, unrelenting anxiety, and debilitating self-criticism. Here are three ways perfectionism gets in the way — and what you […]

The Problem with Shoulding All Over Yourself

Perfectionists often believe that the only way they are going to motivate themselves to keep succeeding at a high rate is to be hard on themselves. I can’t tell you how many perfectionists tell me that they secretly believe — they know — that if they stopped being cruel slave-drivers towards themselves they would instantly […]

The Broken Promises of Perfectionism

When I ask people how they push themselves to achieve great things, I often get a response that sounds like someone trying to get the “correct” answer on a test; “I try to reward myself along the way” or “I visualize myself succeeding” or another piece of wisdom out of a motivational book. (I’m usually […]