Category Archives: Self-compassion

Therapy during COVID-19 (part 1)

These are stressful and uncertain times for all of us.  When you think of going to therapy right now, the first thing that comes to mind is probably getting support for the anxiety and fear that is all around us now. And that is definitely true — therapy can be a space to talk about […]

Three Ways to Combat Beginning-of-the-School-Year Perfectionism

Want a free copy of my new book, The Perfectionism Workbook for Teens? Enter the Goodreads Giveaway! Starting a new school semester? Perfectionism loves to show up at this time of year to create impossibly high expectations, unrelenting anxiety, and debilitating self-criticism. Here are three ways perfectionism gets in the way — and what you […]

The Problem with Shoulding All Over Yourself

Perfectionists often believe that the only way they are going to motivate themselves to keep succeeding at a high rate is to be hard on themselves. I can’t tell you how many perfectionists tell me that they secretly believe — they know — that if they stopped being cruel slave-drivers towards themselves they would instantly […]

The Broken Promises of Perfectionism

When I ask people how they push themselves to achieve great things, I often get a response that sounds like someone trying to get the “correct” answer on a test; “I try to reward myself along the way” or “I visualize myself succeeding” or another piece of wisdom out of a motivational book. (I’m usually […]