Category Archives: Perfectionism

Happiness vs Perfectionism

Perhaps you read that article about how having a first child brings about as much unhappiness as getting fired or divorced. It’s not that surprising when you think of it — for all the joys of having a baby, there is also sleep deprivation, stress, and the feeling that you don’t know what the hell […]

Perfect Face

Ever feel like everyone else at the party is at ease, and you are the only anxious one? Or do you ever scroll through social media and think that you are the only one having a shitty day or year? Does it seem like everyone in class or at work “gets it” without the struggle […]

The Problem with Shoulding All Over Yourself

Perfectionists often believe that the only way they are going to motivate themselves to keep succeeding at a high rate is to be hard on themselves. I can’t tell you how many perfectionists tell me that they secretly believe — they know — that if they stopped being cruel slave-drivers towards themselves they would instantly […]

Confessions of a Perfectionist

As I make my final preparations for my perfectionism workshop this Saturday I have been noticing my inner perfectionist voice getting louder and louder, growing from a whisper to a shout…the workshop isn’t good enough…you don’t know what you’re talking about…everyone’s going to laugh at you…you should probably cancel and make this better before putting […]

Not Broken

It’s January 22. By now, 30 percent of New Year’s resolutions have been “broken.” I put broken in quotes because slip-ups, mistakes, moments of overindulgence or forgetfulness do not mean your goal is now broken and you have to give up or start over. Setbacks or bumps do not mark the end of the road, […]